Cz\u0119sto s\u0142ysz\u0119 od coach\u00f3w, nauczycieli duchowych, a nawet terapeut\u00f3w, \u017ce z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 to \u201etylko emocja powierzchowna\u201d i \u017ce pod z\u0142o\u015bci\u0105 zawsze kryje si\u0119 zranienie lub \u017cal \u2013 te \u201eprawdziwe\u201d emocje. Niekt\u00f3rzy twierdz\u0105, \u017ce z\u0142o\u015bci nale\u017cy unika\u0107 albo j\u0105 omija\u0107, bo jest szkodliwa, podczas gdy zranienie jest bardziej autentyczne. Ale czy to prawda?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nie istnieje jedna uniwersalna odpowied\u017a, ale oto prosta prawda, kt\u00f3rej nauczy\u0142am si\u0119 poprzez g\u0142\u0119bok\u0105 prac\u0119 z represj\u0105 emocjonaln\u0105:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Je\u015bli nie\u015bwiadomie wypieramy zranienie lub smutek, z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 mo\u017ce rzeczywi\u015bcie pojawi\u0107 si\u0119 jako bezpieczniejsza, powierzchowna emocja. Ale je\u015bli t\u0142umimy z\u0142o\u015b\u0107, to przekonanie jest nieprawdziwe \u2013 i w rzeczywisto\u015bci szkodliwe. T\u0142umiona z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 cz\u0119sto zostaje przykryta emocjami, kt\u00f3re wydaj\u0105 si\u0119 \u201ebezpieczniejsze\u201d dla naszego uk\u0142adu nerwowego, takimi jak smutek czy zranienie. W takim przypadku wyra\u017canie powierzchownego zranienia zamiast z\u0142o\u015bci nie oznacza, \u017ce docierasz do g\u0142\u0119bszej prawdy; oznacza, \u017ce unikasz z\u0142o\u015bci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Wyparta z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 po cichu wyrz\u0105dza szkody. Cz\u0119sto objawia si\u0119 jako depresja, trudno\u015bci w relacjach, poczucie od\u0142\u0105czenia, uzale\u017cnienia, problemy zdrowotne i inne formy cierpienia. Dop\u00f3ki nie odnajdziesz jej w swoim ciele i nie przepracujesz umiej\u0119tnie przy pomocy narz\u0119dzi do pracy z represj\u0105 emocjonaln\u0105, najpewniej pozostaniesz w tym samym cyklu \u2013 na zewn\u0105trz wygl\u0105daj\u0105c na osob\u0119 wra\u017cliw\u0105, ale nigdy nie b\u0119d\u0105c prawdziwie wra\u017cliwym.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tego rodzaju \u201ewra\u017cliwo\u015b\u0107\u201d nie jest autentyczna; to strategia przetrwania, kt\u00f3rej nauczyli\u015bmy si\u0119 jako dzieci, gdy z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 nie by\u0142a bezpieczna. Je\u015bli nasi opiekunowie nie potrafili przyj\u0105\u0107 naszej z\u0142o\u015bci, dostosowywali\u015bmy si\u0119 \u2013 np. p\u0142acz\u0105c, zamieraj\u0105c albo wycofuj\u0105c si\u0119. Z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 nie by\u0142a wyra\u017cana ani niekiedy nawet odczuwana, a ten wzorzec utrwali\u0142 si\u0119 i towarzyszy nam w doros\u0142o\u015bci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dzi\u0119ki pracy z represj\u0105 emocjonaln\u0105 mo\u017cemy wreszcie dotrze\u0107 do zatrzymanej w ciele z\u0142o\u015bci \u2013 a taki krok jest aktem g\u0142\u0119bokiej autentyczno\u015bci i ods\u0142oni\u0119cia si\u0119. Otwiera on drzwi do innych st\u0142umionych emocji, takich jak g\u0142\u0119bokie zranienie, smutek i \u017ca\u0142oba, kt\u00f3re nie s\u0105 naprawd\u0119 dost\u0119pne, dop\u00f3ki najpierw nie zajmiemy si\u0119 wypart\u0105 z\u0142o\u015bci\u0105. W wyniku pracy uwalnia si\u0119 tak\u017ce kreatywno\u015b\u0107, seksualno\u015b\u0107, pasja i energia \u017cyciowa. Wszystkie te emocje s\u0105 zatrzymane przez ten sam mechanizm represji emocjonalnej, utrzymywany przy \u017cyciu poprzez stary, zamro\u017cony w ciele l\u0119k, kt\u00f3ry przejawia si\u0119 w napi\u0119ciach cia\u0142a, b\u00f3lu i innych objawach fizycznych.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
W moim w\u0142asnym \u017cyciu przez lata do\u015bwiadczy\u0142am epizod\u00f3w depresyjnych, wycofuj\u0105c si\u0119 z \u017cycia za ka\u017cdym razem, gdy stawa\u0142am w obliczu kryzysu \u2013 rozstania, zmiany pracy czy straty. Rzadko wyra\u017ca\u0142am z\u0142o\u015b\u0107; zamiast tego reagowa\u0142am stoicyzmem, spokojem, wyrozumia\u0142o\u015bci\u0105, zawsze s\u0142uchaj\u0105c drugiej strony. Wej\u015bcie na \u015bcie\u017ck\u0119 duchow\u0105 tylko umocni\u0142o mechanizm represji z\u0142o\u015bci. S\u0142ysza\u0142am tam, \u017ce z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 jest destrukcyjna, pochodzi z ego i \u017ce powinnam \u201ewybiera\u0107 mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 i pok\u00f3j\u201d. To przekonanie utrzymywa\u0142o tylko status quo i utwierdza\u0142o mnie w wierze, \u017ce mam racj\u0119 unikaj\u0105c z\u0142o\u015bci, b\u0119d\u0105c \u201cponad ni\u0105\u201d. Przekonywa\u0142am sama siebie, \u017ce nie ma sensu z\u0142o\u015bci\u0107 si\u0119 na co\u015b, co ju\u017c si\u0119 wydarzy\u0142o. M\u00f3wi\u0142am sobie, \u017ce trzeba \u201ei\u015b\u0107 dalej\u201d, zamiast czu\u0107 \u2013 a gdy nie mog\u0142am, pogr\u0105\u017ca\u0142am si\u0119 w depresji. By\u0142 to nie\u015bwiadomy mechanizm chroni\u0105cy mnie przed emocjami, kt\u00f3re wydawa\u0142y si\u0119 zbyt przera\u017caj\u0105ce, by si\u0119 z nimi zmierzy\u0107.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Powszechnym b\u0142\u0119dnym przekonaniem na temat pracy z represj\u0105 emocjonaln\u0105 jest to, \u017ce sprawi ona, i\u017c staniesz si\u0119 agresywny lub, \u017ce b\u0119dziesz nadmiernie wyra\u017ca\u0107 z\u0142o\u015b\u0107 . W rzeczywisto\u015bci te cz\u0119\u015bci nas ju\u017c w nas istniej\u0105 \u2013 po prostu je t\u0142umimy. K.I. daje narz\u0119dzia aby uwolni\u0107 zatrzyman\u0105 w ciele energi\u0119, kt\u00f3ra utrzymuje te emocje w miejscu. W tej pracy zaczynasz poluzowywa\u0107 warstwy starego, zamro\u017conego w ciele l\u0119ku \u2013 l\u0119ku, kt\u00f3ry trzyma nas w trybie przetrwania.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mam ogromne wsp\u00f3\u0142czucie dla ka\u017cdego, kto do\u015bwiadcza depresji i wiem jak okropny jest to stan. A jednak, pod wieloma wzgl\u0119dami, depresja mo\u017ce jest dla nas bezpieczniejsza ni\u017c stani\u0119cie twarz\u0105 w twarz z wypartymi emocjami. Na pocz\u0105tku te emocje nawet nie wydaj\u0105 si\u0119 emocjami \u2013 to tylko doznania fizyczne, jak napi\u0119cie czy b\u00f3l. Odnajdywanie st\u0142umionych emocji wymaga czasu i cierpliwo\u015bci, ale nagroda jest bezcenna: odzyskujesz swoje \u017cycie.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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