Author: Aleksandra Waclawska
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Anger is love
A Family Program Written in the Body I needed to save half-dead people around me since childhood. I needed to wake them up to life, because even if they were physically there, they weren’t really there. And I absorbed that program — a family program: I have to be scared.This belief: I have to be…
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The Child Behind the High Performer
The High Performer Built in Childhood Discover how childhood emotional roles shape high-performing adults — and why success can hide emotional repression. When One Person Carries Everything Problem solving, crisis management, PR, and executive duties — all in one.No company would ever demand this from a single department. It would be considered absurd, disrespectful, and…
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What are you fighting?
I was a fighter all my life — fighting for life itself, fighting every corner of myself: my true vulnerability, my anger, my femininity, my sexuality, my drive and passions. At times, I even fought others, just to receive breadcrumbs of love, for a fake sense of safety. Survival and safety were my running programs.…
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Walking into the storm
Maybe you’ve come to believe that holding everything together, pushing through, or procrastinating is just who you are – your default mode, almost like it’s written into your nature. But it isn’t. For much of my life, I lived that way too, mistaking survival strategies for personality traits, and identifying with them. I learned early…
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Fear – “home station”
In KI, we say that fear is our “home station.” It’s true—but most of us don’t realize this until we begin doing emotional repression work. Programs like “I have to be afraid to feel or express anger, sadness, or even fear itself” are buried deep in the body, formed unconsciously when we learned to repress…
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Anger – A Secondary Emotion?
I often hear from life coaches, spiritual teachers, and even therapists that anger is “just a surface emotion,” and that beneath anger there is always hurt or grief – the “real” emotions. Some say anger should be avoided or bypassed because it’s harmful, while hurt is more authentic. But is this true? There’s no one-size-fits-all…